Showing posts with label Life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Life. Show all posts

Thursday, 16 October 2014

Thankful Thursday: Every Cloud

has a silver lining.


It's over five months since I wrote the last post on this blog and today is the first time since I wrote it that I have re-read it in full.  I don't think that I appreciated at the time just how much I would miss New Zealand and my life there.  In fact from the moment I arrived back in Scotland the idea of not going back was banished from my mind.  I think that I must have been having a severe dose of reality when I wrote the post and that my optimistic me was on hold for a short while.  In fact I think that until last week I was actually sub-consciously more concerned about my cancer than I've been since 2010 and, perhaps, since I was diagnosed in 1998.

Today's reality is that I shall not be returning at the end of this month as I usually do and, indeed, it may well be that I shall not return this summer (New Zealand's summer that is). But then again I may. For many reasons it seems unlikely that I shall be able to resume my Godwit existence but I'm more optimistic now about a return to my other spiritual home.

My cancer treatment has been under close review since I returned  and a couple of weeks ago I had a complete set of scans which confirmed that no prostatic cancer tumours have developed in my abdomen or chest.  So the situation is that my blood count is increasing rapidly but is still low enough for hormone treatment to be delayed for a while in order to achieve maximum benefit.  Apparently that is because I am quite fit and the treatment has not had an adverse effect on me in the past.  So it looks like taking any decisions about returning to NZ for the time being are still on hold.

However who knows what will happen in a few months and I am now back in an optimistic enough frame of mind to believe that I shall be seeing The Family again in their own setting and that I shall again play croquet on the hallowed Marewa lawns: perhaps not this summer but certainly the following one.

Monday, 28 April 2014

The Last Time

'The time has come,' this blogger said,
      'To think of journeyings:
Of shoes — and clothes — and luggage-bags —
      Of cameras — and things —
And how the sea is to be crossed —
      And whether planes have wings.' 
(With many apologies to Lewis Carroll)

Like the Royal Standard this coaster, a gift from Friend Who Knows Too Much when I first came to The Cottage, comes out as soon as I arrive and is put away when I leave.  Today I put it away in my luggage and not in The Cupboard.

Tomorrow I set sail (metaphorically) for Scotland and my 'other' home and my 'other' life.  The sad news is that I shall be leaving The Family and The Cottage and my New Zealand life for the last time as a place that I call home.  My Godwit days are over.

Unfortunately the blood counts of the cells that are my cancer indicator have trebled in each of the last three three-monthly blood tests.  A doubling in six months is apparently regarded as a Bad Thing.  The oncologist will want to keep an eye on me so that he can decide which is the optimum time to re-start the treatment.  It can't cure but can delay but is only efficacious for a limited period so timing is all important. 

I shall miss:

The Family: Wendy and Martin and Jamie, David, Fraser and Catriona.  They will always be my Family now but, like so many blood families, we will be apart and next time I come it will be for a visit and not to live.  I have been fortunate to see Catriona (who was 4 when I made the promise to her to return for her 5th birthday) grow into a young lady and attend all her school prize-givings.


My New Zealand friends who have grown in number over the years.  Many have been as a result of croquet my love of which came from a chance bout of curiosity when I poked my nose over a hedge at the Marewa Croquet Club and Jayne called me in, put a mallet in my hand, told me to hit a ball and hours later was praying that I would go home.  Many of those friendships will endure the separation and some will just fade into the graveyard of time.  This is Colleen and Jayne (whose face is hidden by her brolly) playing a serious game of croquet in the rain.


 The Cottage.  It has been a haven and a heaven.


Constant summers.  I haven't seen a winter since 2005/6 in Scotland.  I really do not like the cold.  So next October when I would be planning my usual journey to the warmth of New Zealand I shall be putting on my winter woollies and cranking up the central heating.

The Handbag.  I bought the Mazda MX5 in 2006 for 6 months of open topped fun in the sun.   Eight years and many thousands of kilometres later it has today been handed over to a dealer to sell for me.


Croquet.  From that day in 2006 when I first held a croquet mallet until today I have had the most wonderful and rewarding time.  I've had moments at tournaments when I could have seen  the game far enough but they have been rare and ceased after a 'good talking to' one day by one of the Croquet Ladies.  They are a bunch of friends with whom I have travelled all over the country to compete.  I shall miss the camaraderie and the fun.  I shall miss the trips to to the Veterans Tournament at Dannevirke and the week of AC at the Palmerston North Clubs each year.

The hills of Hawkes Bay.  There is something about the shape and light of these hills that will for ever be etched on my soul (for want of a better saying).


Of course nothing in life can be allowed to be completely negative and playing the Glad Game:

I shall see more of my blood family and my friends in the UK and the mainland of Europe (including Braigha):


 And Gaz is getting married and building a house on the Island:


I shall see daffodils again.

A friend and I hope to spend more time going to the theatre and concerts in Glasgow.

There will hopefully be opportunities to see snow.  I never thought I would miss it but I do.  I long to replicate some of the fabulous photos I have taken many years ago of places like the Lake District and Scotland in the sun and the snow.  It's an idyllic view which has little in common with the reality of trying to get around and the problems that snow creates.

Living in six-monthly periods in two countries has given me a wonderful life with opportunities that few could dream about.  They have been amongst the happiest of my life.  However there is a certain strain in living this way and in particular the last month in each country seems to be geared around the next departure.  Okay I appreciate that it's a strain many would be happy to have to achieve the life-style but doing without it will be good. 

I started writing this weeks ago in the hope that it would be honed and complete by today.  In reality when I rose just after 6am this morning there was just a few notes and the rhyme.  So I will doubtless think of many things that I could have said and added to what will hopefully not be the very last post on this blog but perhaps would have been a more fitting tribute to its demise.  I hope that I shall eventually do a post to summarise my life in a country I was very happy to call my home.

In the meantime I hope that those of you who have become such a part of my life over the last years will continue to join me at Eagleton Notes.

Thursday, 27 December 2012

Thankful Thursday

It has just occurred to me that this is the last Thankful Thursday post of 2012.  Another year is drawing to a close.  Another year when those of  my generation are closer to the end of our lives than the beginning.  No, I'm not being morbid.  That's not in my nature.  It's a simple statement of fact.  It does, however, make one think.  It has made me stop this evening and look out of each of the windows of The Cottage at the various things I can see.  It has made me think about the fact that these are things I am so very lucky to be able to see.  It is now over 14 years since I was diagnosed with cancer: a cancer that, had it not been treated despite the fact that there were no symptoms and no indication that it was there, might have claimed my life within months rather than years.  It makes one think that every day is a day to be savoured.

Since then Dad and Mum and my Uncle have died, Carol's and my son Andy has died and, in fact, countless others have died as well.  Two relationships which were very special in my life have also ended.

On the other hand I have become closer to my son than I could ever have imagined and consolidated my friendship with my brother.  I have old friends whom I treasure beyond anything I can think of (and some of whom I don't deserve).  I have made some of the most wonderful friendships possible with people I didn't even know in 1998.   Since that date I have acquired a surrogate family and a second Country and lived a life which back then I could never even have dreamed of. 

If I died tomorrow I would die one of the most fortunate people on this planet.

For that I am very, very thankful. 

I thought that I would just add a few photos from the 120,000 plus that I have taken since 1998.  They have been chosen from the digital images on the computer and are very much what I have spied in my hasty trawl over the last hour or so:

Gaz before our climb up the Clisham, Isle of Harris, 2004
On top of The Clisham, Isle of Harris, 2004: the perfect day - we could see from St Kilda to Cape Wrath to the Ardnamurchan Peninsula
The aftermath of The Hurricane, January 2005 two days before Pat and Dave moved to The Island
Pat, a born and bred townie, up out of her comfort zone in 2005. Now she's embraced Island life more than most.
My New Zealand home
The Californian coastline at sunset, 2004. Perhaps not the most beautiful sunset I'd ever seen but an unforgettable holiday with a dear friend (it was leap year and on the 29 February in California I received a proposal of marriage - but I'm still single)
One of my longest-standing friends and a daughter - Ontario, Canada at, you guessed it, Halloween, 2005
A sight I never thought I'd see: San Francisco and the Golden Gate Bridge 2004
Catriona aged 4
Heli-hiking on the Franz Josef Glacier 2005
And as Bugs Bunny would say "That's all folks.".

Wednesday, 21 March 2012

Wibbeling Wednesday

Seeing as I shall have to be happy tomorrow for Thankful Thursday I have decided to be miserable today and have a good wibble.  Why do I feel the need to wibble?  Not sure.  It's a combination of things.  

It's still raining and it's cold.  That's 47 hours of constant, mostly heavy to very heavy, rain.

A lot of irritating things happened yesterday but I can only recall one of them.  This demonstrates that either a) I don't sweat the small stuff and that they were all small stuff or b) I have an appalling memory or c) that both of those things are true.

The thing I can still recall is that Air New Zealand with whom I always travel between here and the UK without even considering the fares of alternative carriers, has upset me by letting me down.  Whether the (long and boring saga I will omit) situation can be resolved before I leave here on the 1 May remains to be seen.  My upsettance is partly the irritation of what's happened but it's also the feeling of being let down by a trusted friend whom I have supported unconditionally.

In my nightmare last night I was in a very unpleasant war situation with atrocities happening around me.  I can't recall any details just that it left me feeling drained when I woke.  A friend asked me this morning (by coincidence) if I ever had pleasant dreams.  Unfortunately the answer is, so far as I can recall, in the negative.  They are all varying degrees of unpleasantness.

Oh.  Yes.  I knew there was something else.  I've got face-ache.

But, hey, wotthehellarchiewotthehell, it's time for a coffee, two squares of mint chocolate and a crossword.  Life's ok and it's Thankful Thursday tomorrow.






Monday, 23 January 2012

On Being a Monkey

Brother Scriptor Senex has posted today on the Chinese New Year,  the Year of the Dragon.  He posed the question as to what Chinese symbol were his readers born under.  I was born in the year of the Monkey.  Apparently people born in the Year of the Monkey can cope with almost any intricacy with a sober mind. Ambitious and knowledgeable as they are, they can succeed in whatever career they decide to embrace. They are bright, active, clever, good at competition, and act quickly according to the situation. They are highly sociable, good in comprehension, and easily merged with others, but dislike to be controlled by others and prefer fresh things.  Well I don't like being controlled that's true bu obviously someone got something wrong somewhere so far as everything else is concerned! 

Tuesday, 27 December 2011

A Very Satisfactory Day

I'm sitting in the Study watching the news out of one eye (well it would be given that I can only see properly out of one eye anyway), eating cashew nuts, drinking a glass of a rather passable red and counting my blessings as I type this post.

This morning I played croquet with a friend from Palmerston North and The Girls with whom I go to tournaments.  For a few years I was the most successful Golf Croquet player in the Club but over the last year or more Sandra has knocked me into second place.  Today for the first time for over a year I managed a fairly decisive win against her.  She's still the best in the Club but perhaps....

Then we all went for lunch at the Ahuriri Café which is one of my favourite lunching places.

It was so warm that when I got home I changed into my swim shorts and got the pressure washer to de-bug and de-spider web the deck area and also clean the deck so that I can seal it.  I also pressure washed anything and everything I could see that might need it!

So today has (and it's not over yet) been a blend of fun, fellowship and achievement. A Good Day.

I'm very easily satisfied.

Thursday, 8 December 2011

Thankful Thursday

SP at Secretly Skint blogged yesterday on Oradur-sur-Glane.  My first comment on SP's post was "I first went to Oradur-sur-Glane over 10 years ago and it was probably one of the most emotionally difficult experiences I'd had.   Subsequent visits have been less stressful but nevertheless have been an incredible reminder of man's inhumanity to man. I did quite a full post on it on Eagleton Notes back in 2008.".  One of the things that I was reminded of was the image of a person in the recent Bosnia/Croatia conflict being crucified on their own door.  That is a mental image which has never left me.  How the British UN soldiers trying to keep some sort of order who found that must have felt I cannot begin to understand.

Bearing in mind that I read this not long after I'd got up in the morning I knew that it was going to affect my thoughts for the day and it did indeed.

This evening I revisited it and noticed that the last of many comments was by SP and was "It's a wonderful world, it's the people who spoil it.".  How apposite.

I have led a very sheltered life in that I've never been involved in such conflict where man has tried to annihilate man and do it as cruelly as he possibly can.

Today I am truly thankful for that.

I would be even more thankful if I felt that man would learn from these atrocities and stop.

Tuesday, 6 December 2011

An Evening Chat

My friends are scattered throughout the world. I know no one in the city in which I was born and brought up, went to school and uni and worked until I was 26 and left.  A friend recently said that when her friend left the village in which they both lived "I could leave here now. She was part of what made this village home. Su hogar fue mi hogar. These are the ties that bind us.  And in a way that is difficult to define, I feel alone again.".  And I knew how she felt.

When we went to Lewis in the '70s we left 450 miles behind the life we had made for ourselves, our friends and our families.  We forged new lives with new friends.

I stayed on the Island.  Most of the friends I made in those formative years have left even though many have remained very close friends.  There are times when I have felt alone again.  And then new people have arrived and new friendships have been forged.

And now I have deserted them for six months of each year.

In fact because my friends are scattered throughout the world I have become used to keeping in touch by all sorts of means in this age of easy communication.

But this evening as I was about to do something or other Wendy came down to bring me the mail she had collected from the mailbox and to have a chat.  Several hours and several glasses of conviviality later she poddled off back up the lane home.

And the above words came back to me.  And I understood what she meant with a new clarity.  There is nothing like sharing words face to face.


Monday, 21 March 2011

A Mishmash of Thoughts

This morning in the car I heard some of Gounod's St Cecellia Mass.  I enjoyed the snippet enough to look it up when I arrived home this evening and put it on my Amazon wish list.  In the process I found some more sacred music that I'd not heard before.  I already have more music than I'm ever likely to be able to listen to before the end of my days but I find exploring new composers and new works is a wonderful experience.

Today's been a Good Day in almost every way.  I enjoyed the croquet.  I enjoyed the friends and acquaintances I met.  I arrived home at around 1830 and have spent the evening catching up with friends and family.  After Mike's visit and my provision of Kiwi hospitality I'm going on a diet.   That'll last until next Friday when I'm off to a friend's bach with the croquet crowd for the weekend!

As I walked down from The House after catching up with The Family the moon shone out of a clear sky and it was brilliant enough for me not to need a torch and for the sky to be almost denuded of stars by the amount of light emanating from the moon.  It was also remarkably warm.

When I got back to The Cottage the phone rang and I spent the next half hour on the phone to the UK either on the deck or in the living room with the ranch sliders wide open.  Until, that is, a friendly mosquito decided to buzz in my ear when the Raid was sprayed and I retreated to the study which had had the door closed.

Now it's after midnight and I'm about to go to bed.

Tomorrow I'll try and write something  interesting and perhaps even find a photo or two.

Saturday, 5 March 2011

What a Difference a Day Makes

It has rained solidly since daybreak.  We played 7 games of croquet in the pouring rain.  By the time we had finished we had had more than enough and were wet through.

Then life changed.  I went out to dinner then Eclectic Friend and I went to see The Kings Speech.  What a truly excellent film.  Now I can see what all the fuss and hype has been about.  Now I can see that Colin Firth has become a truly great actor.

I cannot say that I enjoyed the first 7 hours of the day.  But the rest of the day has been as good as it gets.

Monday, 28 February 2011

A New Week

It's almost 9am.  It was good not to have to get up at 6am today.  I slept solidly until 0558 (yippee no nightmares) , woke and turned over until 0700.  Wonderful.  Now the sun has come up over the rim of the bowl in which I live and the temperature has reached 20℃ on the deck.  I've had a chat to a friend in the UK.  I've been watching the breakfast TV programme for the latest updates on the earthquake (another 4.1 aftershock less than an hour ago - more property affected, more lives affected, more nerves frayed even further).  This morning I shall take stock, do some housework, meet a friend for coffee and take the car to the garage to have an annoying squeak I can't get at put right.  This afternoon I shall play croquet.  

On Wednesday we all set off for another tournament.  This time at The Mount (Mount Maunganui near Tauranga).

I sometimes find it hard to believe how lucky I am.

Sunday, 27 February 2011

The Earthquake: A Personal View

I, and those who know me well, know that I'm a rather emotional person and even though that may not be regarded as one of a man's most manly and desirable qualities I really don't give a damn.  That's just how I am.  So I am quite ready to say that when the TV or Radio News brings us interviews and comments and news from quake-stricken Christchurch I sometimes have difficulty holding back the tears.  After all I, like hundreds of thousands of others,  have walked down those streets, have been in that Cathedral, have been in that Mall.  My last visit was less than a year ago which, in geological terms, is a mere fraction of a second in time.  I could easily have been one of those who lies beneath the rubble.  As could many people I know and some I love.   It nearly was!

One of the problems with television, as I have commented before, is that it anaesthetises us.  We are taken right into war zones whilst the bullets and bombs are whizzing and falling.  We are taken into the 9/11s as the fires rage.  We are taken into the horrors of the genocide of Rwanda and the Congo.  We are in the midst of the horrors of Christchurch and, for once, for us in New Zealand it is personal.  Very personal.

But the television and radio views are brought to us by people we don't know personally.

The photos, the words and the emotions on Fiona's blog are, to me, personal because Fiona is a real person who is part of my Blog world and also part of my Facebook world.  So when I see her pictures and read her words I am seeing and reading things which are real and believable and which have no anaesthetic qualities.

Paul Holmes is a New Zealand broadcaster.  I have to admit that I have no liking for him.  He is, however, the consummate wordsmith.  Yesterday in the New Zealand Herald he published the following letter:
Dear Christchurch,
I'm writing to you as an Aucklander, to my Christchurch cousins and brother and sister Kiwis. And I just want you to know how much we're all thinking of you and how much we love you and how much we feel for you in these impossible days.
Your city is on its knees. Our eyes fill with tears at the sight of it. We watch the TV and listen to the radio all day and we hear your emptiness, your loss, your dismay, your shock, your disbelief. We see that ubiquitous bloody silt from the liquefaction, that weird up-thrust of clag that fills your back yards and covers your roads and buries your cars.
We look at you and we look at it all and we know what it means. When we hear that the CBD will be closed for weeks, we know what that means for business. We know what it means for your kids, for their state of mind, for their health, for their next pair of new shoes with winter coming.
We know.
So many of you are involved in the tourism business. We know what those pictures going round the world will do for tourism. We know what it's going to do for the insurance premiums. We know some of you, after this, won't be able to afford insurance.
And we know what your cathedral means to you. I heard someone say the other day on television that the cathedral is a Christchurch icon. No. It's a New Zealand icon. All our lives we've had the Christchurch Cathedral.
I know you think we Aucklanders are up ourselves. I know you bang on about bloody Aucklanders. But really, we're just the same as you. We're Kiwis, before we're anything else. We're strugglers, like you. We get up and go to work and do the best for our kids, just like you. We help our neighbours, just like you, and we've watched you helping each other this week and we've all been deeply moved. We just want to walk up to the television screen and hug you and hold you.
Of course, that is something in itself - we've been able to watch what's been going on. So many of you in Christchurch, lacking electricity, haven't been able to see television or listen to the radio or plug your computer in or charge your cellphones. And you may have loved ones missing as well and heaven knows how you're getting your information and how lonely and isolated you must feel. I hope you have someone to put an arm around you.
John Key was right this week. No act of kindness is too small. That was very homespun of him, wasn't it? That's why I suppose he's so good when this stuff happens.
And I know from September, when I went down for a look, that television might show the bricks lying in the street and the great crumpled buildings in their hideous forms. What it doesn't show is the minute damage, the cracked floors, the broken pipes, the destruction of so much of everything you've built and so much of what you hold dear.
Anyway, the TV coverage has been very compassionate, very graphic, very real and wall to wall. I must say how well I think TV3 did on the first day. Hillary Barry had just the right tone. Then I flicked on Sky News. There was Hillary across Australasia. Then I flicked on CNN. There was Hillary, right around the world.
The most vivid report, and one of the briefest on the first night, was from my former colleague John Sellwood in Lyttelton. He painted a brilliant word picture of the destruction down the main street of the town. It was a lesson in voice reporting. It was passionate but precise and you could hear all the shock of the day in his voice.
On Wednesday, at Hawkes Bay Airport on my way to Auckland, there was a flight due out to Christchurch. In the packed Koru Club every eye was on the television screen. I spoke with Stu, who just wanted to get home to Christchurch. He talked to his wife on Tuesday morning, an hour and a half before the earthquake. She was heading in to Cashel Mall to get her hair done. Cashel Mall was pummelled, of course.
Stu couldn't get hold of her all day. After the quake she and others were trapped in the mall. When they got out, it took Stu's wife three hours to walk home. Stu finally got through to her about 6 on Tuesday night. He said he'd just been through the worst day and night he'd ever had.
Then, just before I got on the plane, I spoke to a woman who works in Lyttelton. She told me that on Tuesday, about lunchtime, her staff ran her to the airport. By the time she landed in Napier, Christchurch was in ruins. She told me that if she hadn't taken that flight, she would have been killed. She has a desk right next to a great brick wall. The entire wall fell across the desk.
What we're seeing this week, Christchurch, is the way you carry on. That's one of the qualities we love about you. You keep going. Everything you rebuilt after last September has been ripped up and torn apart again and you keep going, and we cheer for you and we cry for your pain and heartbreak.
And as each day has gone by this week, we've seen more and more clearly the enormity of the human and infrastructural destruction.
You've got the right man as your mayor, though. Bob Parker is a face and a voice of competence and reassurance. On Wednesday night, I worried about him, so tired and careworn did he look, and I wished he'd simply head home and get some sleep. But there he was on Thursday, fresh as a daisy, the world's media hanging on his every word, talking up the city he loves, willing you to survive.
Anyway, I just wanted you to know how much we're all thinking of you and watching you and praying for you and hoping for the very best for you in your dark hour of worry, longing and sorrow.
Sincerely,
Paul
Whatever views I may have of Paul, his words brought tears to my eyes.  If I had been born or brought up a New Zealander I would like to think that I had been blessed with the ability to craft those words and bring forth the emotions they evoke. 

As it is all I can do is feel helpless and realise just how lucky I am.

Thursday, 24 February 2011

Just To Let You Know

that I have been helping with a Tournament at the Croquet Club today and will be Friday, Saturday and Sunday.  This means me being out at 0700 to get lawns ready and set the hoops.  Then I'm at the Club all day as a referee and gofa.  I also have Mike staying with me.  He's playing in the Tournament but at the Te Mata Club. 

I shall be taking the laptop with me but today I had little opportunity to do anything.  

So I'm just letting you all know that whilst I shall try and get emails written I may get a bit behind.

Hopefully I'll manage a quick blog or two just to make sure you all know that I'm still here.


In the meantime if any of you were wondering what had happened to a certain Grand Prix driver then ....  No, surely it can't be!

Tuesday, 22 February 2011

Happy Birthday

One of the beauties of texts is that if someone is on the other side of the world you can't be sure that they will receive their birthday card on the correct day.  In fact last time I sent Steve a card it took several months to arrive and I'm sure he thought I'd forgotten.  So this morning I sent a text to a friend to wish her a Happy Birthday.

She is visiting Christchurch.  If ever a wish didn't turn out the way it was intended then that was that wish.

Memorable it may well have been.  Happy?  I doubt that very much.

Wednesday, 16 February 2011

For What We Are About To Receive


You are sitting in a world-famous Nobu Restaurant.  Now for those who don't know Chef Nobu Matsuhisa is one of the world's most famous fusion chefs.  This particular restaurant is on board an exclusive cruise liner.  The clientelle (or whatever the present PC term for a customer/diner is) changes frequently.  The menu, apparently, does not.  Several of your fellow diners comment that it has become too predictable and you know what you are going to eat and why can't they change the menu and......  You tell them to get real and stop moaning.  They are eating (at no cost to them) in one of the world's most famous restaurants and all they can think about is the variety of the menu.  They suddenly realise how silly they must have sounded.  

Next time you think there is something wrong with your meal remember somewhere in the region of 925 million people in the world suffer from hunger and malnutrition.  If you are able to worry about your meal then you are not one of them.  Be thankful.

Thursday, 10 February 2011

Thankful Thursday

Today I am thankful for the progress that Jaz has made this week.

I am thankful, too, for the opportunities I've been given so far this week to try new things and see new places and meet new friends. 

Saturday, 5 February 2011

Frightful Friday: Almost The End

Well I think that the name for this post might have been an inspired choice.  We were on the lawns and under way by 0800.  Play finished 12 hours later.  The heat on the lawns this afternoon was incredible.  Officially Tauranga on the coast 40 minutes away got to 27℃ with 100% humidity but on the croquet lawns the temperature must have soared into the 30s and it was almost unbearable for many.  Even heat-loving me found it hot.

The croquet?  Well that was another matter.  I played as well as I have ever done but was totally outclassed by the world-class players I was up against.  I was not alone!  Some of the best players I normally meet at tournaments fared no better than I fared.   

When we got back to the motel Zoe and her boyfriend had cooked dinner for the gang.  We had just started eating when one of our number collapsed.  I phoned for an ambulance within 30 seconds of it happening and within 4 minutes or so the paramedics with the ambulance were here.  Given that we are in rural NZ that was pretty impressive.  So now at getting on for midnight I am sitting in the motel having been up since 0515 waiting for a call from the hospital 40 minutes drive away to go and collect either the patient and the person who accompanied her or just the latter and bring them back.  It could be a very long night.

The lawns at 0800 look unlikely from where I am at the moment.

Update:
I never managed to post that last night.  All's well this morning.  More soon (I hope!).

Saturday, 22 January 2011

The Power of a Touch

A friend, Julia Cornes, made the following statement on Facebook recently "too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring all of which can turn your life around.".   What prompted her to make that statement I know not.  Of course I agree with the statement - who could not.  However for some years now I have been only too aware of the power those seemingly small things can have on others. and have attempted (not always successfully) to do those things.  However I would turn the statement around and venture to suggest that too often we underestimate the power of an unkind word, flattery (flattery is a Bad Thing and corrupts both the giver and the receiver whereas a compliment is a Good Thing), and the smallest act of neglect all of which can turn someone's life around.  If we can do the former things and not do the latter then we can become better people.  More importantly we may help to make someone else a happier person.

Friday, 21 January 2011

Argh! I'm a Man

I keep forgetting that I'm a man.  Bugger.  I was quietly sorting my pills, making chocolate crunch for the children, working out what I was going to feed the family this evening, ironing things in between, answering the phone ('No, I'm not Simon!'), answering a comment on Facebook  and sending a text about this morning's arrangements for croquet when I wondered what the odd noise was.  The chocolate, sugar, syrup, butter mix was boiling!  Oh dear.  I should just remember that I'm a man and do one thing at a time.  But then that involves thinking.  And I'm a man.  Catch 22 really.

Tuesday, 18 January 2011

A Day I'll Remember

Today is nearly over.  In fact by the time I finish this it will be but it will be posted today anyway.

Today Carol's and my son and Gaz's brother, Andy, would have celebrated his 38th birthday.  But he died in June 2006 on my birthday.  He had lived for 33 years and just over 4 months.   Inspired by the memory of Andrew his very close friend, Bruce, is undertaking a long and not inconsiderable 313 mile sea kayak journey in March from Largs on the west coast of Scotland to Stornoway in the Outer Hebrides where Andy was brought up.  His Blog is West Coast Kayak Challenge.

Today, RAC,  a friend of 45 years woke to consider his future after being told yesterday that there was likely to be no more than three months of it. 

Today, Sarah, otherwise known as L'Archiduchesse from Les Chaussettes de L'Archiduchesse who has been 'missing' for 6 months or more and about whom I had blogged my concerns has turned up safe and well and in, of all places, Dunedin, having arrived there on 12th January to study.  Her new blog is Year of Two Summers.

For those reasons and for others I shall not mention, today is not a day that I'll forget.